So yesterday, I came across a quite interesting documentary describing stories of people who are emotionally and sexually attracted to objects. I’m a psychology graduate and I have come across with a variety of unusual and extraordinary things regarding people’s preferences and likes but this was something that not only interested me and surprised me but also filled me with some thoughts and concerns that I would like to share.
Object sexuality or objectophilia is a form of sexuality focused in particular inanimate objects. These people with this expressed preference may feel strong feelings of attraction, love and commitment to certain items or captures of the fixation. Such individuals rarely (if ever) have sex or form any kind of romanitc relationship with other humans and they develop strong emotional fixations to the object or structure. Unlike sexual fetichism, the object or structure is viewed as an equal partner in the relationship and is not used to enhance or facilitate sexual behavior. Some objectophiles even believe that their feelings are reciprocated by the object of their desire.
It is estimated that only a very small amount of people in the world are emotionally and sexually attracted to objects and the vast majority of them are women. These individuals are able to form relationships with a variety of objects, (they don’t believe in monogamy), they are having complete sexual relationhips with their loved ones and quite often they express their intimacy and love in public through kissing, hugging, cuddling, or just talking to the loved object. It is also quite common, to have a miniature sculpture or a small part of the object that carry it almost everywhere with them, especially in cases that the loved object is very big or located far away or both, as is the case of Erika LaBrie who “married” the Eiffel Tower in 2007 (and now calls herself Erika Eiffel).
If you ask these people why they are attracted to objects they often are unable to explain it and usually report that this is an attraction that used to have since they were children or teenagers. A quite common background for these individuals thought, is a negative child environment with adverse experiences, commonly abuse or neglect. However, this is not exclusive as objectophilia is a quite rare condition and only a small amount of people who suffered child abuse or neglect have developed sexual attraction for objects. Research in objectophilia is quite new and psychologists have yet a long way to address the predisposing and risk factors for this special preferance.
From my personal view, and as one mother of an odject sexual woman reported in a try to explain this unusual preference of her daughter, forming a relationship with an object instead of a person may be a way to protect and isolate yourself from future hurt. An inanimate object cannot hurt you, cannot offend you, cannot argue back, cannot disagree and cannot do anything that you do not like or find unpleasant. The process and the development of your relationship is entirelly up to your control. In your fantasies and imagination you can form the perfect romantic relationship, with the most attractive and strong partner, that will be always and foverer there for you. Nothing can change this, except you. And the best part, the other strong and attractive partner has the same romantic and sexual feelings towards you, the same passion and willingness to be together. The ultimate relationship happiness.
Of course this may not be the case for every object sexual. Human personality and mind is quite complicated and different drives and feelings exist in every and each of us. And despite how unusual and uncomprehensive may be for some (including me) to understant how someone can spent his entire life being sexually and emotionally connected with objects instead of people, we should show respect and approval for people with different preferences and needs, even if they seem to be so far away from our own preferences and needs. At least, as Germal sexologist Sigusch stated; “The objectophiles aren’t hurting anyone. They’re not abusing or traumatizing other people. Who else can you say that about?”